This program is based upon the New York Times best seller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman, Ph.D. Straightforward in its approach yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in Dr. Gottman's groundbreaking book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their relationships work.
For over 40 years Dr. Gottman scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behaviors that put thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other and the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship.
This workshop is designed to strengthen your marriage or committed relationship. If you already have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to make it even better. If your relationship is distressed, this workshop will provide a road map for repair.
Be proactive and learn what decades of research teach us about healthy relationships.
Candace Jackson M.ED, is an Gottman Seven Principles Program Leader who will lead the workshop and teach you what successful couples specifically do to create long-lasting loving relationships, as well as the benefits of a stable, committed relationship.
Love is in the details. Happy couples are intimately familiar with their partner’s world. According to Gottman, these couples have “a richly detailed love map.” You know everything from your partner’s favorite salad dressing to what is currently stressing them out. You understand their life dreams and they can name yours. When you invest time in knowing each other’s love maps your intimacy and passion for each other will increase.
You can rehearse your partner’s positive qualities or focus on their annoying and negative attributes. Happy couples honor and respect each other. They have a generally positive view of each other even while they grapple with each other’s flaws. Fondness and admiration can be rekindled. Without them a marriage is in the danger zone.
Many people believe the secret to romance lies in a 7-day cruise, a fancy meal or a lavish gift. While these events can be a fabulous addition to a relationship romance lives and thrives in the everyday little things. The motto here is, “Do small things often”. Gottman reports, “[Real-life romance] is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.” Couples who accept each other’s “bids for attention” and turn towards each other have more in their “emotional bank account.” Satisfied and happy couples have more goodwill and positivity stored in their bank accounts, when times get rough; their emotional savings account is there to cushion the conflicts and stressors. s.
Happy couples “yield to win” by considering each other’s perspective and feelings. They learn to accommodate each other’s wishes by honoring and respecting both people in the relationship.
Every relationship has two types of problems. There are solvable problems and perpetual problems. Solvable problems have the ability to be resolved. Perpetual problems continue and will be something a couple grapples with for years. This is where couples become discouraged and gridlocked
The key with perpetual problems is for couples to “move from gridlock to dialogue.” Gridlock is a sign that you have unfulfilled dreams. Happy couples believe in the importance of helping each other realize their dreams, aspirations and purpose in life.
Gottman says, “Marriage isn’t just about raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together — a culture rich with symbols and rituals, and an appreciation for your roles and goals that link you, that lead you to understand what it means to be a part of the family you have become.” In other words two people form their own unique micro-culture that doesn’t exist anywhere else on this planet.
The Gottman Seven Principles Program is designed for all couples in a committed relationship, including:
If you are dealing with emotional abuse, domestic violence, unwanted touch, or substance abuse, this class is not appropriate, and you should instead seek individual or couples therapy.
March 23rd, 2024
6 hour Class
from 10am -4:30pm
July 20th, 2024
6 hour Class
from 10am -4:30pm
October 12 and 13th , 2024
6 hour Class
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